SSDI checks for kids

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on

My X receives an SSDI check monthly as well as my 2 sons. I have had full custody for 6 months but she is still controlling their checks and refuses to document how she is spending their money. What are my options to get control of the checks to insure the money is properly used.

Bryan
Fri, 05/06/2016 - 16:40 Permalink

Hi there,
I would contact the SSA and let them know that the money is not being used for the children's benefit, and they would be able to assign a new payee for the children's monthly benefits.

Alex (not verified)
Mon, 05/09/2016 - 16:12 Permalink

I have primary placement for my child for three months now ( court order) my sons mother receives SSD for our son and is a very bitter money hungry lady so she is refusing to give it up, since she has direct deposit she continues to get it, but does not have the child. I went into SS to provide court order to change payee and when she found out she went on a rage rampage and told SS not to give me the check because she was petitioning to get him back, which she can't however they SS Dept listened to her and is now holding the check saying they are going to involve a third party payee, which is not right when the child lives with me, he has a lot of medical expenses so I don't know what to do or how to appeal this, I've went in serval times to SS office and they can't help, what should I do now to appeal this?

Bryan

In reply to by Alex (not verified)

Tue, 05/10/2016 - 09:53 Permalink

Hi Alex,
You may want to collect all the information about your ex's ability to gain custody and provide it to your local SSA office. Additionally, a payee does not need to have custody of the child, but if the SSA feels that the child's benefits would not be used appropriately, they may change the payee based on that fact.

Rita (not verified)
Fri, 05/27/2016 - 14:47 Permalink

My child's grandparents have custody of my child. Can I still be collecting SSI for her even though I do not have custody?

Bryan

In reply to by Rita (not verified)

Fri, 05/27/2016 - 15:36 Permalink

Hi Rita,
You may collect SSI for her if you use the money for your child's benefit. A representative payee does not need to have custody.

Darryl (not verified)
Sat, 05/28/2016 - 03:39 Permalink

Hi, I am disabled with multiple myaloma. My son also receives bennifits from my disability. I take care of him most of the time and we struggle to make ends meet. My ex wife Was having an affair while we were married And is now remarried and has a full time job. I give her half of my sons SSD through a devorce agreement. They make three times what I get in SSD and she expects 1/2 of my sons SSD and uses most of it for a better life style. It doesn't seem right. What can I do to stop her from getting 1/2 of my sons SSD?

Bryan

In reply to by Darryl (not verified)

Tue, 05/31/2016 - 10:31 Permalink

Hi Darryl,
You may want to renegotiate your divorce agreement, as someone who takes care of the child most of the time, it may be a good idea to have more of those benefits for your child's care.

Kam (not verified)
Tue, 09/26/2017 - 16:35 Permalink

I am divorced and my ex-wife and I share joint placement and joint custody of our child (13 year -old son with Autism, Cognitive Disability, Anxiety, and ADHD). My ex receives SSDI for my son, however, she is concerned because recently he has refused to stay overnight at her house. He used to stay with me for a week and then her for a week. The past couple of months, he has been refusing to stay at her house. He goes to her house everyday as we are homeschooling him now and he works with his mom in the morning and then stays there at her house for in home therapy (She works from home as a transcriptionist so she is home with him when the therapist is there). He comes back to my house in the evenings (She works till 8:30 so he would need to be with my wife and I from the time the therapy ends and while she is working) and sleeps at my house. My wife and I run him to music lesson, horse therapy, and Special Olympic bowling/basketball/track during the weekday evenings. On the weekends, we split up time depending on what is going on, but lately he comes back to my house to sleep. My ex wife is concerned about receiving SSDI for him since he isn't sleeping at her house. I told her that he is there everyday during the week and there on the weekends so she isn't doing anything wrong receiving the SSDI. She is feeding him and caring for him each day, he's just not sleeping there. We are actively trying to get him to be able to stay overnight at her house...therapy is talking with him and we are working on a plan to get him to be able to stay there again, but for now, he is sleeping at my house. For primary placement, do we need to change anything since he isn't sleeping at her house? As long as I'm not trying to get primary placement for SSDI, do we need to change anything? She is getting the SSDI and is using it exclusively for our son...clothes, food, music lessons, field trips for school, helping with medical costs, etc. In addition, since he received SSDI, he also gets Medicaid assistance which is a huge help for the cost of in home therapy and other therapy appointments at the doctors office, as well as medications. My insurance is billed, but the medicaid picks up what isn't covered by my insurance.

Thank you in advance for your response.

Bryan

In reply to by Kam (not verified)

Tue, 09/26/2017 - 16:50 Permalink

Hi Kam,
It doesn't appear that you or your ex are misusing the funds at all, and a person outside the child's current residence may be able to receive funds for them. Additionally, eligibility for benefits may not depend on having the child in the house. If you're in doubt however, it may be a good idea to contact a local SSA office, you can find a listing of them here:
http://www.disability-benefits-help.org/content/social-security-disabil…

Kam (not verified)

In reply to by Bryan

Tue, 09/26/2017 - 17:31 Permalink

Sounds good. Thank you!

Anonymous (not verified)
Tue, 12/05/2017 - 13:41 Permalink

My son gets a SSDI CHECK DIRRECT DEPOSIT ON THE 3RD OF EVERY MONTH .EXCEPT THIS MONTH IT DIDNT COME .
WHY? AND WHAT DO I DO?

Eric

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

Wed, 12/06/2017 - 09:46 Permalink

Hello,

I am so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, we are not affiliated with the SSA so we can't say for sure, but I would recommend calling them at 1-800-772-1213 to see if they can shed some light on this problem.

John (not verified)
Thu, 12/07/2017 - 03:31 Permalink

Hi
My x-wife and got divorced after 17 years of marriage. Almost a year and half ago. We were separated for almost 8 months before divorcing. I've maintained full custody of them since day one. We were supposed to split custody 50/50 as long as she complied with drug testing and actually full filled her parent time. In which she did not. So my lawyer suspended all her parent time. She got unto a car accident almost a year ago? She is set to receive SSDI benefits after her last surgery on Dec 12,2017. I've heard she is going to get a large amount? Will she still be able to receive back benefit pay for my children even though she has only contributed maybe 5% of their living costs. And has only had maybe 8 over nights with them in a year? Or should the dependent benefits be given to me? Since I'm the primary care and support giver? Am I entitled to a portion of her benefits as well? Do to being married for 17 years?

Bryan

In reply to by John (not verified)

Thu, 12/07/2017 - 11:27 Permalink

Hi John,
You may be able to have the payee for your child's benefits reassigned, you may want to contact the SSA with information about this, you can call them at 1-800-772-1213.

Breanna (not verified)
Thu, 01/25/2018 - 17:34 Permalink

I am on permanent disability with a dependant and both get ssdi. My son just turned 18 and his check started coming in the mail and credit union wont deposit in my usual acct now. SS sent a "you must direct deposit" notice" with check but they stopped it not me? Only option is to have son get government photo id to have him as joint acct. Is this correct?

Bryan

In reply to by Breanna (not verified)

Mon, 01/29/2018 - 11:55 Permalink

Hi Breanna,
Child SSDI benefits based off of your work record generally end when a child turns 18.

Anita (not verified)
Mon, 01/29/2018 - 14:25 Permalink

My Grandson lives with me and he gets survivor benefits from his father my son.His Mother still gets his check.What to do?

Aaron (not verified)
Thu, 09/20/2018 - 16:09 Permalink

my ex wife signed our son up to receive SSA benefits. I have not been notified ect how do I find out that she has done this?

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